Fight at My Baby Shower Over Organic Baby Blankets
I am so embarrassed. My mother and my mother-in-law were fighting at my baby shower last week over whether or not I would be using organic baby blankets. My mother-in-law actually called my Mom a “hippie.” I love my mother and I love my mother-in-law, but they couldn’t be more opposite. My mother has been a vegetarian for over 40 years and is very against any type of toxins and chemicals. I have to agree and not just because she’s my Mom, no one would knowingly choose to expose their child to harmful chemicals. Now, my mother-in-law is one of the sweetest ladies on the planet. However, she firmly believes that a product would not be sold in any retail store if it was actually harmful, end of story.
Reasons for Organic Baby Blankets
It all started when I opened a present from my mother-in-law. It was a beautiful little receiving blanket that read “made in China” and was a cotton/nylon blend. I just thanked her and thought I’d put that blanket aside or swap it for something else. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or cause a fuss. Of course, my mother had to pick that moment to reach down and read the label on the blanket and say aloud, “Wow didn’t know a lot of nylon is treated with formaldehyde and other chemicals?” And then WWIII broke out because my mother-in-law isn’t a quiet, little woman. She got up in my mother’s face and unleashed a tirade.
What Was Said Against Organic Baby Blankets
My mother-in-law was yelling she was sick and tired of hearing the word “organic” and it only was a buzzword to con people into paying more. There wasn’t anything wrong with using pesticides to grow cotton because if there was then the government would have stopped it. She reminded my mother that we all live in America, and they don’t use chemicals that are “that harmful.” I could see my mother winding up to start spitting facts back, and I shot her a painful look of “please stop before my shower is totally ruined” and she did. She just said, “Hey, let’s just have fun today okay?” There was a lot of big eyes and uncomfortable, forced smiles from my other shower attendees who nodded in agreement.
Why It’s a Good Choice
We managed to get back in the groove of having fun at my shower after that outburst. However, I personally do make the choice to use only organic products with my baby. I have already bought a crib made from sustainable wood and non-toxic paint. I bought an organic crib mattress, and my baby’s bedding is 100% organic. I plan on using cloth diapers and making my own baby food. In short, keeping all the toxins I can out of my baby’s life. I realize short of sealing my coming up child up in a bubble, I can’t protect her from everything, but I can strive to get as healthy as possible.
I Talk to Both Ladies
I waited a few days for all tempers (including mine) to calm down so I could talk to both my mother and my mother-in-law. My mother was over it already and had already shown up at my mother-in-law’s with a spice cake she called a “friendship cake.” When I called my mother-in-law, she apologized, and told me she and my mother had spent an afternoon together mending fences. It was good to hear. I know I’ll never change my mother-in-law’s mind about anything organic, but we don’t have to have drama about it either.
I adore my mother, and I equally love my mother-in-law, but neither of them get to choose what items I will be using with my coming baby, their first grandchild on both sides. I’m not comfortable at the possibilities there could be “less toxic” substances in my baby items and that’s why I choose to use safe baby products including organic baby blankets, even though they caused a heck of a fight today.